To each his own. To me my own.

Hint-hint

Ever throw a hint that doesn’t get picked up on? Maybe you’re sure that it’s a strong enough one to be recognized but it gets averted anyway, or worse – avoided. Not a good feeling. Can even be frustrating, especially if the hint’s been thrown out on a semi-annual basis for any length of time.

Hinting about a want, desire, or issue of importance in your life can be mentally draining when the hint goes unacknowledged. I understand it’s sometimes better to come right out and say what it is you want – but for me that key word is sometimes. The problem I have with this is, depending on the subject matter, there are wants/needs I just don’t believe I should have to suggest or hint for. It’s just the way I feel, the way I was brought up, the way… well, let’s just say I don’t want to repeat any past mistakes. That’d be kind of stupid.

Mama always said, stupid is as stupid does.

Setting Stages is a very close friend of hinting, and they often show up at the same event together. I’ve set some pretty cool stages myself, if I may say so – like Biltmore House and the beach. Is it right? Wrong? Hell, I don’t know. I just know I could do it, so I did. There’s this little thing you’ve gotta remember about setting stages, though. If your expectations are too high, you’ll end up setting your own self up for disappointment. Which sucks.

Throwing out an effective hint can be tricky. It needs to be thought out carefully beforehand, because the last thing you want is for the hint-recipient to feel pressured or bad in any way. You need to make sure whatever it is you’re hinting for isn’t too far-fetched or ‘out of reason’. If repeated hints never get addressed or acknowledged, the time will come when you must accept the fact that it’s probably something the other person doesn’t want.

Some things are meant to be… while others aren’t. And I’m pooped.

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8 responses

  1. Girl “I am very sad.”
    Boy “That’s nice.”
    Girl “I don’t think things are working out here.”
    Boy “Let’s order delivery Chinese.”
    Girl “I don’t love you.”
    Boy “We should get a cat”
    Girl “I hate you. I’m moving out!”
    Boy “Whaddya mean? I thought everything was just fine between us.”

    January 27, 2012 at 12:38 pm

    • This comment above…This is my life.

      Bonnie, Hints are exhausting…and frustrating. I hope you get everything you want and soon!

      January 27, 2012 at 1:10 pm

      • They are exhausting, Thoughtsy. And I wish the same for you, my friend.

        January 27, 2012 at 1:59 pm

  2. LOL, I’m envisioning a cartoon here, Carl. 😀

    January 27, 2012 at 12:52 pm

  3. We always don’t notice the hint before we can solve the problem

    January 27, 2012 at 11:39 pm

    • This is very true Cocomino, and I try to remember that.

      January 29, 2012 at 7:58 am

  4. Ravi Chhabra

    How about giving a hint and then letting go. It’s not easier to let go at first but with practice you will start smiling more about how you feel about all this. This is my hope and I am letting that go too.

    January 28, 2012 at 11:39 am

    • I know that’s what I need to do, Ravi – let it go. For some unknown reason I keep coming back to it, though. Maybe I’ll get better at it in the future – thanks for your visit and comment! 🙂

      January 29, 2012 at 8:00 am

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