To each his own. To me my own.

Setting Stages

Have you ever wished for something, and over time found yourself subliminally ‘padding the way’ for it to happen? Not necessarily ‘making it happen’ or ‘helping it out’ – but perhaps making it ‘easier to occur’?

Setting the stage, so to speak.

It has recently come to my attention that I may be unintentionally doing this. Once I realized it for what it really was, I was disappointed in myself. The sheer anticipation of certain hopes and dreams somehow warped my brain into thinking that I need to provide my assistance or guidance in order for them to happen.

Go out and grab life by the horns, Bon. Seize the world – it’s yours. Make your own destiny. It’s never too late to be what you might have been. I heard it all. And I listened.

After twenty-three years of marriage I was the proud owner of a can’t-think-for-myself brain. Once I finally met and became acquainted with ME 1.0, I convinced myself I had to become a strong individual and maintain control and direction. I’m still (slowly) learning that exercising that ‘control’ does not and should not apply to every single thing in life. Some things need to occur naturally if they are to occur – and over time. Unwittingly setting the stage isn’t always appropriate.

Certain dreams and aspirations I have will either come true or they won’t. I have to come to the realization that some things in life just do not need my assistance.


13 responses

  1. Mom~

    Very thought provoking. You know me though – I always feel like some things DO need my assistance! Never let your hopes and dreams fall by the wayside. 😉

    August 20, 2011 at 11:52 am

    • Bonnie

      Ha, we know each other so well, don’t we Mom? Guess I need to categorize those ole’ hopes and dreams. 😀

      August 20, 2011 at 3:42 pm

  2. Reach for the stars but keep your feet on the ground – Theodore Roosevelt

    August 20, 2011 at 2:46 pm

    • Bonnie

      One of my favorite quotes since I was a child. Of course, back then I thought that quote was from Casey Kasum (American Top Forty). You can go ahead and shoot me now, I earned it. 🙂

      August 20, 2011 at 3:45 pm

  3. There’s a time for everything! You are so right, some things just don’t need your supervision or assistance. It’s very freeing to let go of that stuff, all the while holding onto your hopes and dreams. 😉

    “I want the fairy tale.” ~ Vivian in Pretty Woman

    August 20, 2011 at 4:09 pm

    • Bonnie

      It’s hard though, isn’t it? Seems as though I was just given the ability to do so and now I’ve gotta go watch myself. 😀 And I’ll have what Vivian’s having! LOL!

      August 20, 2011 at 7:46 pm

  4. I always say that the best thing to do is to place yourself it the path of opportunity. You can’t pick the winning lotto numbers, but you’re not going to win if you don’t buy a ticket.

    August 21, 2011 at 9:18 pm

    • Bonnie

      That’s so true, Tracy!

      August 22, 2011 at 9:11 am

  5. I think you have to have dreams and believe you can make them come true but don’t forget to live in the here and now and not stress if your dream turns out slightly different in reality. Love the stage image!

    August 22, 2011 at 7:48 am

    • Bonnie

      Good advice, Vix! And I did have fun with that stage pic. 🙂

      August 22, 2011 at 9:13 am

  6. Another lovely post! Always reach for the stars!!
    Thanks again.

    August 22, 2011 at 3:22 pm

    • Thank you, Linda! I apologize for just now seeing your comment.

      January 3, 2012 at 8:20 pm

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