Le Miserables
24-5-11, Addendum
Apparently, the context of this post has sparked some debate as to exactly who the intended target was. This should be considered my response.
I’ll start off with a gentle reminder that this is MY blog. Although I remain flattered that anything I write could be of a holding interest to anyone – if you choose to negatively dissect a particular post on my blog, I feel that you should consider creating and managing your own blog. They’re absolutely free of charge.
Secondly, I have always taken the utmost care to protect the perimeter of any issue I choose to write about. A person’s anonymity has and always will be of utmost concern. In actuality, this post could have been written about anyone – male or female, young or old, family, friend, colleague, or person at Walmart for that matter. There will be no apologies offered for any assumptions that were made.
Thirdly, please read this post again. Now. If you openly admit to identifying with some or all of the traits I listed, you can rest assured that a problem exists. If you so note yourself exhibiting these traits, note that there’s a problem. If you actually sat there while reading this post and hand-picked traits that pertained to you… I’ll say it once more – there is a problem.
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How do you handle a miserable person? Specifically, an individual with anger issues? A person who, for the life of them, will not let up on their pathetic antics until they’ve brought down an individual or entire group around them?
This type of individual must constantly be handled with kid gloves. Anything can and will set them off. They trust no one, and view the entire civilization around them as a threatening hell who is out to get them. The miserable person has few, if any, friends.
Upon successfully downing others, they appear to be on a ‘high’ for a while. You see, bringing others down brings the miserable person much satisfaction. Truth be told, this individual is the epitome of selfish. There are many highs and lows, indicative of something even more serious than meets the eye. They have the uncanny ability to reach deep within their brain and pick out a person responsible for every single bad thing that has ever happened to them.
Back to my initial question – how do you handle a miserable person? I’ll tell you the only way I know of – which is to totally cut them from your life, by whatever means necessary. One thing’s for sure – life is way too short. At this point, my patience level has been far too exhausted to entertain any other option.
Life of Bon 
This one struck a chord in my heart. The miserable person is like a cancer cell invading a healthy body, a rotten apple threatening to spoil the whole basket. No one really knows the circumstances that helped mold them into what they are …. but there are at least two truths in my experience. After all peaceful human efforts fail, separate yourself even if it means divorce or changing jobs. The second truth is that with God all things are possible, so regardless of their seemingly hopeless transgressions they deserve to be lifted up in prayer.
April 10, 2011 at 1:08 pm
Very well put, E. I admit I have to keep reminding myself of that second truth. Honestly it helps to know that others completely understood this post…
April 11, 2011 at 7:32 am
People like that Bon, have to put others down to feel good. It sounds like this person has borderline personality disorder. Also, they could have been abused at some point in their lives. When someone acts like that, their wiring is not right. Some are born that way and some get that way from abused. There really is not away to “handle” these people and booting them out of your life, to me, is the best thing to do. Beware of people like that..if they feel like you have done them an unjustice, they WILL get even! At some point in our lives, we will have to deal with someone like that and it always makes me wonder what has happened to them. People like that can not find any joy in life. So sad! Hope you made it through the hail. It has put dents in the truck and busted the siding on the back of the house. I’ve never seen anything like it in my 52 years. Take care hon. ❤
April 10, 2011 at 1:16 pm
I believe you hit the nail on the head, because get this – my doctor said the same thing (BPD)! He was such a good listener to my situation last week, and more than interested in the ‘behavior being exhibited’. He highly recommended a book detailing bpd, of course I went right home and ordered it. He said at the very least, it is a very interesting read! I can’t wait for it to get here. No, there’s no joy in life for these souls, you’re right. But when it comes down to stealing others joy, well that’s a whole other bucket ‘o balls.
K and I have a few dents in our vehicles, but they’re none the worse for wear (at least our windshields are intact). I’m still sitting here in disbelief at the size of that hail. Just plain old abienormal!! 🙂
April 11, 2011 at 7:37 am
Sometimes this is what one must do in a case such as you describe. It’s not wise to allow someone whose behavior is predictably destructive wreak havoc in your life. Blessings to you, Bonnie…
April 10, 2011 at 5:01 pm
Yes, Carol Ann – and sometimes with that comes big change. I see that in my future, and K often reminds me that change is usually a good thing. Blessings to you, dear friend.
April 11, 2011 at 7:43 am
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