To each his own. To me my own.

✔ You’ve got…. Mail.

More drama unfolds at the old Bon-stead. For those of you who don’t know me personally let me say that I abhor drama – be it a hint, piece or load of it. I had far too large a helping of it in my old life and let’s just say it soured me on any future meals. Anywho…

Yesterday my boyfriend’s *ex* contacted me via email. She wanted to clue me in on some not-so-nice things about him, one in particular. This time, I was willing to listen to what she had to say. After all, I’m a strong adult female, and I deserve to ‘be in the know’ on a person that may very well become a part of my future. I thought… after I hear what she has to say I can then make the decision to believe all, some, or part of it – or none, as the case may be.

Let me just say I don’t dis-believe what she had to say. Now let me attempt to break this all down.

While I don’t profess to be a psychiatrist, I will say something stands out here in the fact that she would contact me in the first place. This isn’t the first time, either – just the first time I responded back. Either a) she still loves him and wants him back, b) she hates him and doesn’t want him to be happy, or c) all of the above. My choice? C. Ding-ding!! I do believe I won the prize…

Case in point – my own ex has dated a wonderful woman for about a year and a half now. Not only is he undeserving of a woman of such statutes as she, but he does nothing in an attempt to improve his lifestyle in order to even try to reach her level. Never have I seen two more different people. When I learned of them dating, I immediately felt much empathy for her – and admit I even contemplated contacting her and trying to warn her. That thought lasted an hour at the most – I would’ve been a fool to do it. I mean c’mon, she’s a big girl – and would you like to try and guess how it would’ve been taken? Just like I told my guy’s *ex* yesterday… it likely would’ve either fallen on deaf ears, or she would’ve have immediately thought I wanted him back. So, I opted not to. And I know it was a good decision.

Something else to consider is the fact that people do change. While this change isn’t always for the better, miracles do sometimes happen. I’ve seen a few hard, hard souls out there make the switch from dark to light – I know that it is possible. Now… should you use this possibility as an excuse to remain in an abusive relationship? Absolutely not. What I am saying is sometimes a person comes out of a relationship having actually learned something – and applies it in their next one. That is all.

Thought I’d attach a pic I took this morning of my little haven in the sky, while at least some of my plants are still living. I’ve already lost three to the heat. Speaking of heat, best get out and enjoy a little outdoor time before it kicks in today. (Note morning bagel to your immediate left.) Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m off for a much-needed recount of my many blessings.

Peace, y’all.

Oh…I almost forgot!! Please check out my friend’s blog… and welcome Southern Sweet Tea! She’s a real gem, folks. Southern Sweet Tea’s blog


12 responses

  1. I like your little haven. God bless you. I’m checking out Southern Sweet Tea’s blog.

    July 24, 2010 at 10:54 am

    • Bonnie

      Thanks Carol – I’m thankful for my humble little abode every day of my life. 🙂

      July 24, 2010 at 11:24 am

  2. Elena

    What a peaceful and beautiful sanctuary! Enjoy your little piece of heaven in the sky.

    July 24, 2010 at 12:45 pm

    • Bonnie

      Thanks Elena!! 🙂

      July 24, 2010 at 7:39 pm

  3. Sorry to hear about the “spur under the saddle pad” on the ol’ Bon-Stead. I have to agree, YOU did the best thing by resisting the urge to contact your ex-hubby’s new GF, if nothing else than to save face from her thinking that you could EVER possibly want that PITA back in your life! LOL! However, as sad as this may sound, I WOULD want to know the “dirt” on my man if someone was wanting to shovel it out. Heck, I’d even supply the wheel barrow so that we could load it up with all the BS to fertilize the garden! 😉

    Thanks for the mention in your blog! Bon, you’re the BEST!!!!

    July 24, 2010 at 4:15 pm

    • Bonnie

      That’s an excellent way of looking at it, Kimmie! And you know me well… I did want to hear it and kept an open mind. Still dealing with some stuff I was told. I still can’t imagine contacting an ex’s girlfriend – I mean really, the more I think about it the more I know it was done out of sheer desperation. That’s sad, in a way.

      July 24, 2010 at 7:43 pm

  4. izziedarling

    I think you are spot on in your summation. And not contacting gf of your ex. Just not worth it. Love your little spot of heaven – hummingbird feeder, sweet! Going to read Sweet Tea. Cheers!

    July 24, 2010 at 5:30 pm

    • Bonnie

      Thanks, Izzie! And yeah that thought didn’t hover too long in my mind before it perished, thankfully. And love those dear little hummingbirds!! 🙂

      July 24, 2010 at 7:55 pm

  5. ooooh, I miss palm trees! 😦

    July 24, 2010 at 10:23 pm

    • Bonnie

      I’m struggling to keep it in this heat! lol

      July 24, 2010 at 10:36 pm

  6. I absolutely love your little haven! The small details are wonderful. Hope they continue to thrive despite the heat.

    July 26, 2010 at 4:51 am

    • Bonnie

      Thanks so much, sweet Dreamer!! It truly is the little things that mean the most. And after almost a week of 100 degree heat, we’re finally getting a break today. 🙂

      July 27, 2010 at 8:33 am

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